Stop what you’re doing, grab a seat on that comfy couch of yours, put your feet up and give yourself a break! If you didn’t already figure it out the day your first child was born, let me let you in on a little secret. WE MOMS CAN BE A BIT TOO HARD ON OURSELVES. I know, I know it’s mind-blowing, right? If we’re not being told by others that we could do better, we’re sure as heck telling ourselves that every day.
I was having a tough mom day a couple weeks ago. Okay, actually it was a string of tough mom days. That voice inside my head kept saying, maybe you’re not cut out for this, maybe this is too much for you. Then one morning, I received an email from a woman promoting a children’s book for parents called Pat on The Back. I immediately went onto the website and began to read about the author Megan Baxter, a fellow Austin Mama, and her reasons for writing the book. I could instantly relate.
You know that time when the madness of the day starts to slow and your Littles are tucked in their beds ready to read their favorite bedtime story. That time when you’re lying next to them staring at their perfectly perfect little squishy faces and the Mom guilt begins to enter your mind. You beat yourself up for yelling, for rushing them out the door, for doing whatever it is that in your mind a mom “shouldn’t” do. That’s when Megan Baxter wants to help you by giving you a gentle reminder through her book, Pat on the Back, that “you are enough”. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to take time for yourself. It’s okay to parent differently than the person sitting next to you. There’s not a single person like you on this planet. Your life with your Littles is yours. Baxter wants to give you “permission to be YOUR definition of a parent” and that is something I think we all can get behind.
I’m grateful to Megan Baxter for giving me a reason to sit down one night after the Littles went to bed and use the affirmation cards that she provided to reflect on myself as a mom. To be honest, I do often tend to focus on the negative. I give myself a hard time for moments in Motherhood when I could have handled things differently. But you know what, if my Littles can forgive me, I should be able to forgive myself. And I think that is Baxter’s hope with this book. To change our perspective so that we acknowledge the good that we do as parents and give ourselves a break because when it comes down to it, we all want what’s best for our Littles. So with that,
I CHOOSE to accept my perpetually messy house (even though my husband probably wishes I wouldn’t, ha).
I will EMBRACE the fact that I am a better mom if I make time for myself to do what I love.
But most importantly, I choose to SEE the good in myself.
I know that when it comes down to it, I’m doing alright at this parenting thing after all.
So, I encourage you Mamas out there to do the same. Let’s try to focus on all of the good that we do as Moms. Let’s accept the things we beat ourselves up about. Let’s embrace traits of our personality that make us who we are, even if they aren’t perfect. Let’s be inspired by the good that we see in ourselves. Showing our Littles that we are human and make mistakes but despite that, love ourselves anyway, is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. With all that you do everyday to raise those amazing Littles of yours, you deserve to give yourself a Pat on the Back.
~This is My Life After Littles